Get Out Of The Friend Zone!!!

Guys this post is for you as ladies really don’t have to much a an issue with this. The dreaded “Friend Zone” refers to a very horrible situation in a mans eyes where the female he is trying to have mutual sexual relations with or even a relationship with has begun to view him as a friend only and not as anything more.

Lack of confidence, insecurity, fear of rejection these are all emotions and feelings that will hold you back from making that all important first move with a girl and that is how you end up in the friend zone going shopping for pillows and bed bath and beyond and talking about guys she wants.

I know I know I am always going on about how friendship is the most important part of a relationship and it is. However you have to get the girl at least somewhat interested in having sex with you or considering the idea of being with you in general. If I may quote the movie Just Friends for a moment as I see this movie to be very much related to what I am talking about.

In the movie Ryan Reynolds plays Chris Brander who as become a master of getting into the friend zone with the very attractive Amy Smart who play the equally attractive Jamie Palamino.  Now once he sheds his high school boy fat suit Chris become a hot successful man and there are two lines he says that I find to be exactly what a girl thinks of a man friend.“See when a girl decides that you’re her friend, you’re no longer a dating option. You become this complete non-sexual entity in her eyes, like her brother, or a lamp.”

Now no man wants to be a lamp that is just no fun for a guy and it only point out the fact that he will not be getting any, you know what I mean. Here are the facts gentlemen. A woman can get sex anywhere, any time and any way she wants it. The problem for you guys is that women don’t want sex anywhere, any time and any way you want it. To women the whole sex thing comes with an onslaught of annoying and complicated emotions most of which, lest be honest with yourselves you don’t seem to deal with very well, all bundled up in this “I am horny 24/7″ basket with rather ugly brown colored bow.  The end result to all of this is that it is infinitely easier for women to place men into the category of “friends” rather than admit them as their lovers.

How To Avoid The Friend Zone

Alright men her it is the “How To” on keeping yourself out of the friend zone for good. This is a tenique young grasshopper that you must master if you never want to hear the words “Your such a good friend to me(insert name here).” Men hate hearing that as their initial intention when they like a girl is to get her into bed and show her what he is made of. FEAR NOT MEN for if you follow these tips you will have her in your bed bath and beyond in no time.

• You don’t need her- Don’t be so readily available whenever she beckons for you. Have enough shit happening in your life that NO girl is a priority over anything that you have going on. Your focus should always be 100% on yourself and your hobbies as you are the most important person in your life. This will give you a perfectly legitimate excuse to flake and bail on her once in a while and then ever so gentlemen like “Make it up to her” by taking her out and showing her the absolute best and mind blowing time of her life.

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  You find her attractive but she has competition- Start to casually notice other attractive girls when you are with her and comment on them by saying something like “Damn, she is fine!” Stare other girls down like the are meat and you looking for your next meal and become mildly distracted till your “Gal Pal” starts to get a little pissed off and irritated. Tell her that she shouldn’t get her panties in a twist because she is also very very sexy and she knows it so there is no reason to get in a tizzy about what your doing. Actions such as this are going to communicate that you find her attractive, but in a very detached not needy sort of way.

• You have high standards- Talk about all of the things you strongly require in the type of woman you are interested in having relations with. This is a subtle way of qualifying her and in a way grading her on how she matches up to you standards. Tell her how you once thought that the ultimate key to happiness was being able to simply approach any girl and hookup with them at anytime. But after you finally overcame all of your fears and were able to hook up non stop with girls, you were then able to realized how many women just don’t meet your standards of being intelligent, funny, down for anything even if it means getting a little dirty, and whatever else you wanna throw in.

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  "I Am A Sex God"....Keep Repeating That Over & Over.

  You are physically affectionate- Start off by talking a little bit about things that you really really like to have done to you but most girls are not keen on doing or just flat out refuse to do. Talk about it like it is as casual as a any other convo you would have about something like sports. Show her that you are comfortable letting her see your sexual side and knowing your sexual desires. Then get into your more soft passionate side by commenting on her jewelry maybe a ring on her hand perhaps and find any excuse you can to touch her. If  for example it is  her earring you have targeted, let the backs of your fingers very very gently grace a small part of her cheek just ever so romantically.

• You don’t let flings ruin friendships- Reassurance is a key ingredient to add in order to get a perfect finished product. At some point in the conversation you need to mention how you are still friends with most of your ex girlfriends because you think it’s a complete waste of time and energy to burn bridges with girls that meant something to you at some point. A mentally healthy woman will always agree with a man when you say this to them. Also you need to assure her that nothing bad is going to come of her acting on her desires as it is natural to do so and terrible to just hide them away cause of fear. Get into her head and in sort of a hypnotizing way make her view of you as you wish it to be.

That is it in a nut shell guys not very hard to do now is it? However,  before you rush off to try these exciting and fun filled tips please keep in mind that there are the type of girls out there who will never see you as anything but their  little brother. This is not all bad in fact there are benefits to having girls like this in you life. They not only provide helpful tips about the female body and mind but they also have friends who may be just as if not hotter than they are that you can try you newly learned knowledge upon.

Coming to a close

These tips should always be used for good and not evil guys. Do not go out to the bar and use them to make a woman feel bad and the guilt her into getting with you cause she will never find anything better. That is a very big no no and no way to start a relationship at all.

You will never truly be happy knowing that she is only with you cause you made her feel bad by checking out other women. Oh and what if you do find you Miss Right and you just flat out dump this girl that you pretty much mind fucked leaving her a broken hearted no self esteem mess. Your gonna feel like an asshole no matter how much you try to resist it.

The point of this post is to help you get out of you safe zone, into the dating zone and avoid the friendship zone at all cost. No girl want a shy guy so just do you best to come off as comfortable and straight forward as you can and somewhere along the way you will actually start to possess these qualities without having to try anymore.

Its hard to get out there and walk up to a hot girl i understand that it can be intimidating but you can’t let that get to you. Just get past the fears and walk up to her the worst thing she will tell you is that she is not interested, has a boyfriend, or the ever popular female word NO. Women want confidence and to be smitten and treated with respect. Women like to be made to laugh, be complimented, and here is something you might not know but you should. Women are sensitive, intuitive, empathetic creatures so they can smell bullshit a mile away its like a super power that every women has just that some are more in tune with it than others. Just be your self and be confident and you will do fine.

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