Bad Communication In A Relationship Is Not Healthy!!!!!!
I have mentioned communication and it’s important significance to any long term relationship so now I am going to do a whole post on it so that this fact can really sink into your brain. Communication is very important to a relationship I cannot stress that enough and the sooner you acknowledge and understand that the better off you and your relationship is going to be. Communication really is the main ingredient to a successful relationship!!!
What is communication lets have a quick lesson on that for a second just to refresh memories. Communication is a process in which transferring information from one entity to another occurs. This pretty much mean that a minimum of two people interact with on another by exchanging thoughts, opinions, or information by ways of speech. It is a fact that a person may have a “One-Way” communication however it is better a “Two-Way” process where there can be an exchange of those thoughts and opinions as well as ideas, feelings, and emotions.
Here is a fun way to think about it. Communication is enclosed in a package by one person and is then channeled to the second person via some medium. Once the receiver decodes the message they are then able to give the sender the proper feedback. . All forms of communication require three main objects of a sender, a message, and a receiver. Communication requires that all parties have an common commutative area to get to so the initial message given by the sender can be clear and understood by the receiver.
Ways To Communicate
Now there are two main ways to communicate, that is by auditory means and non-verbal means, both are very informative in there ways if you know how to process them. We perform all ways of communication from day to day and sometime we don’t even realize it but realization as well as understanding of our actions is a very important part of communication in an of itself. I am going to go into the most common ways of communication and provide you with detail so that you can understand in full how each of them work.
Auditory Means Of Communication
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This is the audible part of a transmitted signal that is directed towards our sense of hearing. Hearing what is being spoken o us or listening to the sounds around us gives us the basic means to which we will break down and classify. An example of this is say when your walking through the wood you may hear a high pitched sound high in the sky will the analyze it and come to the conclusion that it is a bird.Or how about when you get to a beach and you hear loud crashes and dripping you process that as the sound of waves hitting and leaving rocks.
The same applies to everything else you hear in you life from day to day when sounds enter your brain they are then processed. Conversations are not excluded due to the fact that how a conversation is brought onto you will determine they way you analyze and understand it. Conversations in a relationship must be brought on in the proper way or the flow and understanding of the intention will be misunderstood. Here are the most common ways of audible communication directly related to a relationship.
- Speech- This is communication based of of ones vocabulary made into sentences and the spoken to another individual usually with the same vocabulary and understanding of that vocabulary. Conversations between a couple is just that, you need to be able to get on the same level as one another and have
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a conversation that you both going to be able to comprehend and provide feedback from. If your trying to communicate to each other with words and context that one of you doesn’t understand fully or at all then the conversation has to reason to it and is just a waste of time on both of you that will most likely end in an unnecessary fight.
- Song- You hear this all the time, couples talking about “Their” song, the song that sums up their relationship in a 3-5 minute set of words formed into meaningful sentences that go along with a nice melody and harmony known as music. Its cute how people feel that they need a song to define some related moments in their own relationship that were in that very song no matter hoe pointless and unrelated it is to the actual relationship itself but to each their own I say. Songs are also use to express feeling and emotions that are hard to express on your own in hope that it will serenade and sweep the targeted person off their feet without having to do much work or talking for that matter.
- Tone Of Voice- Its all in the tone and how you say thing that sets the mood for a conversation. You can steer the conversation in anyway you want just by the tone and how you say things. This is by far the most important thing that you must remember before starting a conversation with your lover. You can go into a conversation mad as hell but if your tone of voice is calm and soothing then you will get a lot more solved than if your tone is angry and loud.
Nonverbal Means Of Communication
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You don’t necessarily need to have a verbal conversation to communicate something to someone as there are other means of the nonverbal variety. There are also factors to the way a nonverbal conversation will go including environmental conditions that are going on when the communication is taking place, the physical characteristics of the people doing the communicating, and behaviors of communicators during the interaction of the conversation.These factors determine how a conversation is going to go and what the mood is going to be.
If its raining, dark and gloomy outside obviously that is not a good environment to attempt to have a happy and cheerful conversation in for most. Whats a person is wearing down to what their breath smells like has a direct effect on the mood of the conversation, you don’t really wanna have a conversation with someone in craggy torn dirty clothes with horrible breath. Finally if someone is acting all moody or keeps fidigting with things it makes it hard to have eye contact or a netural conversation with that person. Here are the most common nonverbal way of communication that we should use everyday o better our relationships.
- Body Language- This consists of mainly body pose, gestures, and eye movements that are performed by the people in a conversation. Humans automatically send as well as interpret such signals subconsciously in their own minds. The acquired technique of reading someones body language is use quite frequently in any and all type of conversations. The main idea is to mirror the body language the person opposite of you is doing in order to put people at ease and to let them know they are understood. There is the “Observers,” who will limit the weight they place on non-verbal cues the receive, and the “Signalers,” who clarify their signals in order to indicate the origin of their actions.
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- Touch- Touch is an extremely important sense for all humans as it is the first sense we develope as a fetuse and is thought o be be basic sense in which we respond.In fact the development of an infant’s haptic or touch senses and how it directly relates to the initial development of the other senses have been the target of much research as well as providing information about surfaces and textures. Touch is a direct component of nonverbal communication and relationships as it is vital in conveying physical intimacy between partneer. The sexual aspect of touch such as kissing and the platonic aspect such as hugging or tickling are great ways to communicate.
- Eye Contact- This is in a nut shell the meeting of the eyes between two people. In human beings, eye contact thought to have a large influence on social behavior and the course and meaning of a conversation. This skill was coined in the early to mid-1960s and is used to often define the act as a meaningful and important sign of self confidence and provides people the ability to really communicate with one another. If you are not making eye contact with someone then you are not truly in the conversation with them and they will feel as though you are not interested or don’t care about it or them for that matter.
There you have it folk the bets ways to communicate to avoid problems or misunderstanding. Communication can be clear or vague, open or guarded, honest or dishonest and it can even be spoken or non-spoken. With that being said there really is no such thing as “non” communication, it simply just does not exists. In fact virtually everything we do in our lives as well as in the company of others communicates something to someone. Our body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, down to level of interest or disinterest is communicating something in some way whether it be positive or negative.
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Communication Makes All The Difference In A Relationship
Because our ideas and interests are shared onto other people through the way that we communicate them, we are more likely going to get the result we desire if we do so in an appealing manor to those we are trying to communicate to. The problem is that often we think we’re communicating in one way saying one thing but in reality are actually communicating something totally different. Either that or we are communicating in such a poor fashion that no one can even attempt to comprehend what we are trying to say.
Be direct and assertive in your conversations. Do not hold anything back just get to the point and don’t leave anything out in relation to feelings and emotions. By no mean leave any room for doubt and don’t be afraid to state exactly what you want or need. You must also be responsive as well and pay attention to the wants and needs of the other person in the conversation. Be honest with you partner and get across to them what you feel and want from them without hurting their feelings or ignoring their feelings as well.
Couple need to always be able to be open with each other and find the best way to benefit both of you. Share your problems and your daily life on a daily basis and don’t leave anything out. Be very thorough and go into detail whether it is something good or bad. This serves as a great way to strengthen and maintain your relationship for many many years to come, it like an insurance policy or even a safety net, when all else fails communication never will.
