- Learn Hoe To Overcome Jealousy And Insecurity Before It Ruins Your Relationship!
We all feel jealousy and insecurity at some point in our relationships. Which the leaves us wondering how to overcome jealousy and insecurity. No one ultimately wants to feel jealousy and insecurity in their relationship. Those are two of the worst feelings you can feel. And why is that? Because they can branch off into other negative feelings and start to drive you insane with what if’s. Just to give an example, Ill name a few.
“What if I am being cheated on?” “What if I am not longer good looking In their eyes?”
“What if they found someone else and I am about to be dumped?”
What if’s, much like the ones I have provided above are a direct result of jealousy and insecurity. People, male and female, will torture themselves with what if’s once they start to feel the cold stab of jealousy and insecurity. aThey are two very different feelings but have the same effect on those who feel them. Why you would want to feel jealous and insecure is beyond me. Yes, it is a choice to feel the way you do. But most people haven’t realized it yet.
Take Jealousy
One feels jealousy in many many different kinds of situations. However, the most popular is with their significant other. If your boyfriend/girlfriend happens to notice another male/female who is rather good looking, you feel jealous. They took a good hard look at this person and you want to know why. All these questions start running like movie credits in your mind.
You will then begin the game of 21 question, only your partner doesn’t see the point in playing. “Do you think they are prettier than me,? What caught your eye about them? What was that about?” Which will only make you madder when they don’t answer, or tell you that you being crazy. Which will undoubtedly start a fight about how they flirt to much and other guys/girls hit on them to much. In the end you really do look like the crazy one.
Deep down you know it was nothing and it is silly of you to get mad, hell you do it to sometimes. They don’t get mad at you, they don’t throw a fit in public or wait to yell at you back at home for that matter. But the feeling of jealousy took over. You let it happen and did nothing to stop it. Instead of letting it roll of your shoulder, your now in a fight with you boyfriend/girlfriend. And everyone around you is talking about you, not in a good way.
Now Insecurity
One feels insecurity when they are put into a situation they feel they are not good enough for. You boyfriend/girlfriend takes you to a party for example. Where there are a lot of other hot girls/guys. You don’t feel you make the cut. And just like with jealousy the questions start rolling through your brain and some slip out your mouth. “Why did we have to come? Are you trying to tell me something? Am I as good looking as those guys/girls?”
Which, yep you guessed it, starts a fight. A silly fight that could have been avoided has you just ignored the negativity of being insecure. But you decided to let it run free and take control of the situation. Now you feel like your not hot enough to be around your significant other friends. You also feel like maybe your not hot enough for your significant other.
Why do that to yourself? who would WANT to feel insecure? It is a waste of time and energy. A truly pointless emotion. I know you feel that it may be relevant to the situation, but to tell you the truth it’s not in the least. If your boyfriend/girlfriend didn’t want to be with you… um they wouldn’t be. Anyone can get a hot exterior, but not everyone has a good personality. Those are the rare ones. Let that cross your mind before you fly off the handle.
What To Do What To Do
How to overcome jealousy and insecurity should be at the top of your list. You don’t need to feel like your not good enough. Jealousy and insecurity are not what you should be feeling in a relationship. If they are, that is not the relationship for you. Because here is the thing. You may wanna stick around and change that person, but people can only change if they want to. So why waste your time? It really isn’t worth it.
You either need to get over it and let those negative feelings go, or move on to a relationship that doesn’t cause them. Jealousy and insecurity cannot run your relationships. Cause they will run it into the ground. Take control of your emotions before they cause to much damage. You owe it to yourself to not get mad but talk. Let your spouse know it bothered you without yelling and screaming. Take charge of jealousy and insecurity!
